I guess the majority of us have heard about Tantric sex and massage. Had anyone asked me what it was exactly I would have giggled shyly and muttered something about gentle touching, feathers, massage and no orgasm. How wrong I was.

Tantric massage is basically just a massage. However it was created from the belief that if you are sexually happy and relaxed then your health will benefit. The Hindus describe Tantra as achieving personal growth through pleasurable existence. The massage itself does tend to cause orgasms, but these are described as a bonus rather than the aim.

Although Tantric massage does not involve actual penetrative sex, it does involve full on touching of the organs. For this reason you will not find it offered down your local health centre. You are far more likely to find it on offer in the many massage parlours in London and other major cities.

If you want to have a go with her or him indoors here is a pretty basic guide to Tantric massage.

Firstly, from this point on, your manhood is referred to as Lingam (wand of light – don’t be thinking light sabre it’s not that big!) .

If you are visiting somewhere for your massage you need to decide in advance whether you will be getting naked or not. Proper Tantric masseur prefer you to be naked, they believe this helps the healing process all over your body. If you are shy you can choose to keep some clothes on, I am guessing you will want to cover your Lingam .

The massage itself involves every part of the body, although I guess the Lingam area will receive more than its fair share of attention. The massaging of the body is to help prepare the receiver for the attention you will be paying their genitals.

Lingam Massage

Get to lay back on the bed with a pillow under his head to enable him to see what you are doing. Put a pillow under his hips and spread his legs with his knees bent. His Lingam must be completely exposed. Begin as before by gently massaging all over his body, avoiding this area for a while. This allows him to become completely relaxed and prepared for the touching of the Lingam. Pour a small amount of oil over his shaft and testicles and begin gently massaging his testicles. Next massage the area on the pubic bone above the Lingam. Massage the area between his testicles and his anus (perineum). Moving on to the Lingam, gently grasp the base with your right hand and move up the shaft and then remove your hand, repeat with the left hand. Do this for some time, then change to grasping the Lingam at the top, slide down the shaft and remove your hand, replace with the left and repeat this process. The head of the Lingam is very sensitive and deserves special attention. Massage it in a circular motion. Don’t worry if the Lingam goes soft, it will shortly perk up again. Likewise if your partner seems to be on the brink of orgasm, back off and encourage deep breathing.

I will keep bringing you close to orgasm and then back off. This is not a method of torture, it helps you to control their ejaculation and therefore achieve longer and more pleasurable orgasms. Whilst continuing to massage your Lingam, I can search for Your sacred spot. This is located between his testicles and his anus. It is a small indentation about the size of a pea. If you massage here and gently increase the pressure you may well feel uncomfortable at first. Applying pressure here will help you gain control of your orgasms in future. If you are nearing ejaculation I can apply pressure here and this will increase the intensity of your orgasm.

The end of the massage is signalled by an intense ejaculation . I

Flying takes a lot out of people for various reasons. A fear of flying could have you tense the whole time and a mess by the time you arrive. Just the process of a long flight will dehydrate anyone. If you are flying through a drastic time zone switch, your body is not prepared for it and you are off the whole time you are there and of course when you get back. Here are a few tips to get through all of that and more.

If flying stresses you out, you need to find a way to relax while you are flying so you don’t arrive at your destination exhausted. It may be as simple as getting a prescription to help you relax on the flight or going through some therapy to alleviate the stress. You have to get on that plane relaxed or you are dooming yourself to be dead tired the moment you get off the plane.

If you are switching time zones, adapt your body to that zone before you ever get on the plane. Maybe you are flying from the East Coast to the West Coast. Sleep in a little bit longer that day and take a nap on the plane. This will enable you to treat your day out West just like you would in the East. Make sure you stay up until your normal bed time after you have landed and you can beat the lag. When you get up the next day, expose yourself to sunlight and do an activity that will get that blood pumping as soon as you wake up. You can fool your body into thinking that nothing has ever changed. Reverse the process when you get back East but make sure you do the same thing the next morning so you never miss a beat.

Flying dehydrates everyone. You are breathing pure oxygen for an extended period of time your body is going to be drained. Knowing that going in, treat it like an athletic event and make sure you are well hydrated days before you fly. Load up on fluids and drink plenty of fluids on the plane. Once you land, continue to re-hydrate until after you get back home.

The key to beating jet lag is that your body always has to feel as though nothing has changed. If you are on a short trip, you may keep as much as possible to your normal schedule. For instance, you have dinner at 8:00pm, have dinner at 5:00pm out west that night. Prepare your body for the trip by making sure there are no radical changes, keep yourself hydrated and make sure you keep your sleeping patterns and you can recover from jet lag in no time at all.

There is a jet lag remedy; or it is better to say that there are precautionary measures that need to be taken so as to avoid or reduce the severity of jet lag. Here are some tips:

• You should sleep adequately prior to flight.
• Make sure that you eat something light and solid before and during the flight.
• Drink enough water and fluids during the flights and try to avoid alcohol, even if it feels good.
• Try to sleep during flight, or at least relax as much as possible.
• Try to stretch and exercise a little when you arrive to your destination.
• Go for a long walk when you arrive; being outside, exposed to the atmosphere of the new place can always help, because you help your body become familiar with the new zone and environment faster.
• Try to avoid getting involved into a stressful situation right away; if you are travelling for business purposes it is better to give yourself at least one day to relax and adjust to the new time zone. If you are a leisure traveller just take it easy and enjoy.
• And the best point could be getting a full body relaxing massage with your masseur!

Throughout history, humans have employed the art of massage as a means towards greater relaxation and health. The cultures which we regard as the foundations of our civilization including Rome, medieval China and Japan, India, Greece, and even ancient Egypt, all practised forms of massage. In addition, many cultures which have not traditionally been considered “civilized” have used massage in many different applications.

Today, the benefits of massage and massage therapy are well known, and have in fact been documented in peer reviewed medical research. This means that the best minds in the medical field endorse massage and massage therapy in a number of different situations.

Just what are the situations in which massage therapy may be called for? Let’s take a look at some common occurrences which may lead you to seek massage therapy.

An Injury:

For many, massage therapy is a key component in their road to recovery after sustaining an injury. Whether the injury in question was a pulled muscle or a broken bone, increasing levels of massage as healing takes place can greatly aid the process.

Pain Relief:

Many people suffer from chronic pains, although those pains do not occur due to a past injury. The pains may be in the form of migraine headaches or joint inflammation, incurred through age or environment.

In these cases, the pressure applied through different types of massage can greatly alleviate the amount of suffering a person is feeling. Massage appears to both dull the intensity of pain during treatment and reduce the level of pain when it re-occurs. Sometimes, massage therapy can rid the patient of specific chronic pain altogether.

Stress Relief:

Perhaps the best known massage applications is in the reduction of stress on the individual patient. Massage’s traditional application has been in the form of a relaxant, allowing the pressure of life to drift away amidst pressures placed on the physical form of the patient.

As stress is a factor in the everyday life of every human, stress reduction is the most widespread application of massage therapy. Massage has been proven not only to reduce stress but also to alleviate stress induced symptoms on both the physical and mental levels.

Why Does Massage Therapy Work?

While the benefits of massage have been proven at almost every level that matters to science (the one exception being double blind experiments, as one involving massage is impossible to design), the question of why massage works remains a mystery. Multiple theories exist that suggest why massages are effective in so many circumstances. It may activate an increased blood flow, improve sleep, release endorphins, or any number of other potentially beneficial reactions within the body.

Massage Therapy is the most used type of complimentary and alternative medicine in hospitals and rehabilitation centers today. Nursing professionals use massage therapy to help with the relief of pain and to assist patients with sleeping. Oils are used in massage therapy to enhance the massage experience with its therapeutic effect.

Massage therapy involves an action of manipulating the body with pressure-structured movements which can be done manually with hands, elbows, fingers, forearm, knees and feet or with mechanically aids, for example hot stones or other various devices. Some of the techniques used are skin rolling, kneading, striking, stretching, compression and shearing. Different areas of the body are targeted in massage therapy, muscles, tendons, ligaments, skin, joints and some organs. Therapy can be done clothed or unclothed, in a chair sitting or on the floor or table lying.

Essential oils and salts are used in massage therapy because they provide therapeutic benefits and help with the removal of dry skin. Each oil provides a different purpose and these are a few of the oils used. Coconut oil are the favorite oil used by therapist because it washes off easily. It helps in boosting your energy and building endurance, it enhances your performance, relieve stress and help with removing of mental fatigue. It is a safe oil to used because it prevents dryness and flaking of skin, delay wrinkles and sagging of skin, helps in treating skin ailments and preventing infections. Jojoba is the most natural oil because it resembles natural skin oil, it is soothing and nourishing and can be used on all skin type. Hazelnut is non-greasy and is used for toning skin.

Grapeseed oil is excellent for moisturizing the skin, it lubricates well, easily absorbed, tighten and tone the skin well. Macadamia oil is the best oil to used on dry skin. Sesame oil is a rich, softening oil that can be used on all skin type. Mustard oil helps to soothes arthritis pain and stiff joints and it lets off a pleasant aroma which some find appealing. Many practitioners of aromatherapy used organically produced essential oils because some states that there are pesticides residues in some essential oils.

Essential oils should not be used in its undiluted form on the skin because it can cause severe irritations or allergic reactions, it should be mixed with a carrier which is usually a vegetable base oil. Some common carrier oils used in massage therapy are Almond oil which helps with softening and lubricating dry skin. Avocado oil can be used on irritated skin, it has a lot of vitamins and can be used as a mild sunscreen. Olive oil contains a lot of protein and vitamins, absorbs rapidly into the skin and used in the treatment of muscular pains. Wheat Germ oil has vitamins, antioxidant properties and helps with diminishing of scars.

Some benefits of using oils in massage therapy are, they have antiseptic properties which provide a curative effect. They provide an uplifting feeling by decreases the feeling of anxiety and depression, increasing awareness and concentration, providing a better focus and calm mind thereby reducing stress and providing relaxation. It relieves muscular pain and provides flexibility in tense muscles. It also improves circulation, promotes deep breathing, improves posture and provides a restful sleep, increasing your general well being.

Massage is the kneading and stroking of the body’s soft tissues – the skin AND the muscles – with varying degrees of pressure. It has long been incorporated into a number of traditional health systems such as Ayurveda and Chinese Medicine.

Generally, there are 2 types of massage and the benefits of each can be different; gentle and strong.

Gentle massage affects the nervous system through nerve endings in the skin, stimulating the release of endorphins, the body’s natural ‘feel good’ chemicals, to help induce relaxation and a sense of well being, to relieve pain and reduce levels of stress chemicals such as cortisol and noradrenaline. It helps reverse the damaging effects of stress by slowing heart rate, respiration and metabolism and lowering raised blood pressure.

Stronger massage stimulates blood circulation to improve the supply of oxygen and nutrients to body tissues and helps the lymphatic system to flush away waste products. It eases tense knotted muscles and stiff joints, improving mobility and flexibility. Many of today’s health problems can benefit from massage therapy because the manipulation of soft tissues affects so many of our bodily systems.

Prolonged periods of stress can subconsciously affect many systems of the body. Stress has been shown to aggravate, or even cause, such problems as heart disease, gastrointestinal disorders, memory loss and decreased immune function. Massage therapy is one of the best antidotes for stress. Massage boosts the body’s immune system, which can become compromised from extended periods of stress.

Tension can build up in the muscles, causing a decrease in circulation and nutrient delivery to tissues. Manipulation of the soft tissue decreases muscular tension, increases removal of metabolic waste and promotes nutrient delivery to healing tissue. With a therapeutic massage, stress can be significantly reduced. This, in turn, will increase energy, improve your outlook on life, and in the process boost your immune system function.

As you can see, massage is not just a luxury anymore, it’s a better way to healthier living! If nothing else, massage just feels good. It feels good to get, and believe or not, it feels good to give it as well. Massage therapists are known to find a sense of calm themselves when giving a massage.

Physical Benefits

Relaxes the whole body,
Loosens tight muscles,
Calms the nervous system,
Relieves tired and aching muscles,
Diminishes tension headaches,
Stimulates circulation,
Strengthens the immune system,
Reduces pain, swelling, and formation of scar tissue following injury,
Increases flexibility and range of motion,
Diminishes chronic pain,
Assists in reducing nerve entrapment through the release of soft tissue or muscular binding,
Enhances skin tone by reducing tension in the skin and adjoining tissues as well as increasing, circulation and detoxification,
Improves muscle tone,
Helps to improve and maintain your posture,

Emotional Benefits

Calms mental activity
Creates a feeling of well-being
Reduces levels of anxiety
Enhances your self image
Supports a sense of being unified and in harmony
Satisfies the need for caring and nurturing touch
Increases awareness of the mind-body connection

Mental Benefits

Increases mental alertness
Reduces mental stress
Improves concentration
Promotes restful sleep
Assists in mental relaxation
Enhances capacity for calm thinking and creativity
Increases your ability to monitor stress signals and respond appropriately

If nothing else, massage just feels good. It feels good to get, and believe or not, it feels good to give it as well. Massage therapists are known to find a sense of calm themselves when giving a massage.